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Life Hurts ~ God Heals ~ Letting Go and Letting God

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R.E.C.O.V.E.R.Y.

We are imperfect people living in an imperfect world ~ we all need recovery in one way or another. We get stuck in anger, grief, fear, depression, bad habits, bad relationships, guilt, and whatever else.

Part One ~ “R” – Realize we are not God: We admit we are powerless to control our tendency to do the wrong thing and our life is unmanageable. Naturally we do evil…In Christ we’re delivered from this body of death. That which we do we allow not. What we want to do is right but what we do is sin that dwells in us (Romans 7:15-17).

Part Two ~ “E” – Earnestly believe that God exists, that we matter to Him, and that He has the power to help us recover.

Part Three ~ “C” – Consciously choose to commit all our life and will to Christ’s care and control.

“Come to Me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30).

What could keep us from taking this step?

1) Pride ~ We don’t want to admit we need help. Be willing to set pride aside, we are not in control.

“Before destruction the heart of a man is haughty, and before honor is humility” (Proverbs 18:12). “The wise in heart will receive commands, but a prating fool will fall” (Proverbs 10:8).

2) Guilt ~ We are ashamed to ask God for help. We feel we don’t have a right to keep going to God.

“…for innumerable evils have surrounded me, my iniquities have overtaken me, so that I am not able to look up, They have more than the hairs of my head, therefore my heart fails me” (Psalms 40:12).

God is always waiting, don’t let guilt keep you from going to Him.

3) Fear ~ We’re afraid of what we’ll have to give up.

“For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?” (Mark 8:36).

What is your fear? Giving up control? God wants to set us free from whatever controls us. Let go and let God take control of your life. Give up control! He wants to set us free. He wants a relationship with us. Give up everything to Him. He’ll give back one hundred fold. Give Him what you have and don’t be afraid.

4) Worry ~ We confuse the decision phase with the problem-solving phase.

“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your cares on Him, for He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:6-7).

Let God take care of the things you can’t. Pain brings a softening u so that we give up our pride and turn to God for help, allowing Him to control what we can’t.

“…being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ” (Philippians 1:6).

5) Doubt ~ My faith seems so small.

“So Jesus said to them, because of your unbelief, for assuredly I say to you, if you have faith of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you” (Matthew 17:20).

We don’t have to have all the answers before turning to God. Don’t let doubt stop you! We don’t clean a fish before we catch it. We have little faith, but we have a BIG God!

How do we take this step? What do we do? Be committed, not only involved.

1) Accept God’s Son, Jesus as our Savior. Secure your eternity. “If we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved” (Romans 10:9).

2) Accept God’s Word as our Standard.  Allow His Word to teach you how to live. “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness…” (2 Timothy 3:16).

3) Accept God’s will as our Strategy. Not my will but Thine be done Lord. “I delight to do Your will, O my God, and Your law is within my heart” (Psalm 40:8).

4) Accept God’s power as our Strength. We need help but we want to be our own boss. Quit trying to live in your own strength! “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13)

“Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me” (Revelation 3:20).

Open the door and begin a relationship with God. Take a stand. Consciously choose God’s will. Jesus paid it all, all to Him we owe.

We will hit bad spots, switch to God’s help. He is at the door of your heart.

Will you let Him in

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Life Hurts ~ God Heals ~ The First Steps to Freedom.

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We live in a fallen and broken world and God wants to heal us.

“I have seen his ways, and will heal him, I will also lead him, and restore comforts to him, and to his mourners. I created the fu=ruit of the lips, Peace, peace to him who is far off and to him who is near, says the Lord, and I will heal him” (Isaiah 57:18-19).

God, help us one step at a time.

What do you need to recover from? Overworking, grief, divorce, insecurity, gambling, overspending, hurtful relationships, overeating, guilt, abuse, perfectionism, lying, fear, anxiety, alcohol, drugs, sexual addictions, hyprchondria, procrastination, codependency, the need to control?

The first steps to R.E.C.O.V.E.R.Y:

Realize you am not God: We admit we are powerless to control our tendency to do the wrong thing and our life is unmanageable. Naturally we do evil…In Christ we’re delivered from this body of death. That which we do we allow not. What we want to do is right but what we do is sin that dwells in us (Romans 7:15-17).

The cause of our problem: Our sin nature.

How we “play” God:

By denying our humanity and by trying to control everything for selfish reasons.

1) Our image…we don’t want others to know who we really are. We wear a mask and it takes a lot of work to keep up.

2) Other people…Husband, wife, parents, children. we want people to do what we want them to do.

3) Our problems…We say, “I’m okay, I don’t have a problem, really, I’m fine.” Denying we are afraid or that our problems really exist.

4) Our pain…We try to avoid, escape, postpone our pain. We become depressed or angry with others.

STOP denying!! We need God’s help to heal!

The Consequences:

1) Fear ~ If people really knew, would they like me?  So he (Adam) said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked, and I hid myself” (Genesis 3:10).

2) Frustration ~  Trying to control everything. Don’t be someone God never intended you to be or control what only God can control (Romans 7:14-25).

3) Fatigue ~ Don’t run and try to hide pain by keeping busy. What pain are you running from trying to “play” God? “For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me, my vitality was turned into the drought of summer. I acknowledged my sin to You, and my iniquity I have not hidden. I said, “I will confess my transgressinon to the Lord,” and You forgave the iniquity of my sin” (Psalm 32:4-5).

4) Failure ~ Be honest with yourself and with God, He knows all about them anyway! Quit playing God! “He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy” (Proverbs 28:13). God wants to heal us. There must be places and atmospheres where the sick can go for healing.

The Cure: Admit your powerlessness. Admitting our weaknesses gives us strength.

Admitting that you are not God means you know you are:

* Powerless to change: your past. You don’t have to allow your past to control your future.

* Powerless to control: other people.

* Powerless to cope: with your harmful habits.

Allow God to give you healing power. “But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble (James 4:6).

GRACE IS: the power to change. God wants to lead you and help you change. He is God, you are not!

How many suffer in silence from pain of the past? being hurt by someone? What problem in life have you been denying or controling?

Step down and let God heal you without judgment but with much grace and mercy.

Stay tuned, this is part one of many 🙂