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Life Hurts ~ God Heals ~ How To Avoid Relapse

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“For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice, but what I hate, that I do. If then, I do what I will not to do, I agree with the law, that it is good. But now, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells, for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. For the good that I will to do, I do not do, but the evil I will not to do, that I practice. Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me” (Romans 7:15-20).

Relapse ~ Falling back into a self-defeating pattern. How does it happen? 1) Complacency, we become complacent. 2) Confusion, we rationalize. 3) Compromise, we return to that risky behavior. 4) Catastrophe, we give in to the ould hurt or habit.

The road to recovery is not a quick fix. Sometimes the road is jagged, has a lot of twists and turns. Sometimes it is two steps forward and one step back.

No matter how we behave, God WANTS to heal us.

Part One ~ “R” Realize we are not God…

Part Two ~ “E” Earnestly believe that God exists…

Part Three ~ “C”  Consciously choose to commit all our life and will to Christ’s care and control.

Part Four ~ “O”  Openly examine and confess our faults to ourselves, to God, and to someone we trust.

Part Five ~ “V“ Voluntarily submit to every change God wants to make in our lives and humbly ask Him to remove our character defect.

Part Six ~ “E” Evaluate all my relationships and offer forgiveness to those who have hurt me and make amends for harm I’ve done to others except when to do so would harm them or others.

Part Seven ~ “R” Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible reading, and prayer in order to know God and His will for your life and gain the power to do it.

What Can Cause A Relapse? Why do we let it happen?

1) Reverting to will power ~ We think we have the ability to do it ourselves and stop depending on the dependency of God

“Are you so foolish? Having begun in the Spirit, are you now being made perfect by the flesh?” (Galatians 3:3)

2) Ignoring one of the steps ~ We can’t pick and choose then expect God to fulfill His promises. We need to follow all of God’s steps one at a time.

“You ran well. Who hindered you from obeying the truth?” (Galatians 5:7)

3) Trying to recover on our own without support ~ Don’t be afraid to get into relationships, they are for our best interest. (Even the Lone Ranger had Tonto).

We can’t find healing on our own. The root of our problems are relational. Live in God’s healing together. Don’t try to do it alone, it will not work.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up” (Ecc. 4:9-10).

4) Becoming prideful ~ Stay humble or you will stumble. Pride sets us up for failure.

“Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18).

“Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall” (1 Cor. 10:12).

How To Prevent A Relapse

Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible reading, and prayer in order to know God and His will for your life and gain the power to do it.

“Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing but the flesh is weak” (Mark 14:38).

1) Evaluation ~ Continue to evaluate our lives and how we are doing. “Let us search out and examine our ways, and turn back to the Lord” (Lam. 3:40).

What am I to evaluate?

Physical ~ What is my body telling me? Am I tense because I’m stressed out? Like the warning lights on our cars…pay attention, fix it.

Emotional ~ What am I feeling? Like a pop when you shake it, it explodes out. Eventually we will explode if we don’t deal with it.

Relational ~ Am I at peace with everyone or in conflict with someone that is keeping me from having peace and healing?

Spiritual ~ Am I relying on God and His power everyday or am I ignoring Him?

“But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another” (Galatians 6:4).

Expect God to help with answers and to give the power, wisdom and strength we need.

2) Meditation ~ Slow down long enough to hear God. Have time in our life to hear God, busyness stifles us from hearing God.

“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bring forth its fruit in its season, whose leaves shall not wither, and whatever he does shall prosper” (Psalm 1:1-3).

3) Prayer ~ This is how we plug into God’s power.

“Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name. Thy, Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for Thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen” (Matthew 6:9-13).

God is so committed to our healing that He went to the Cross and died for us. Remember the sacrifice He made for us and be obedient to Him and His Word. Examine yourself and your heart. Recommit to Him and what He wants to do in your life.

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Life Hurts ~ God Heals ~ Making Changes

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making change Jim Rohn

R.E.C.O.V.E.R.Y

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:1-2)

Part One ~ “R” Realize we are not God…

Part Two ~ “E” Earnestly believe that God exists…

Part Three ~ “C”  Consciously choose to commit all our life and will to Christ’s care and control.

Part Four ~ “O”  Openly examine and confess our faults to ourselves, to God, and to someone we trust.

Part Five ~ “V” Voluntarily submit to every change God wants to make in our lives and humbly ask Him to remove our character defect. Allow God’s Spirit to guide, direct, mold and make us into the image of Christ.

We all have hurts we will never forget, we all have hang ups we can’t really get rid of, we all have habits that are messing up our lives. This is why we must be “transformed” ~ change our minds. The only way we can be transformed is by changing our minds.

We are created in Christ’s image, image of perfect, blameless and beautiful, but we live in a fallen world ~ full of temptations, tragedies and sufferings that bring deterioration into our lives. God wants to restore that perfection and beauty back into our lives. To remove those chains that bind us, to keep us free to move forward. He wants to remove those hurts, hang-ups and habits.

If we want to change our lives we must change our thoughts. but how?

1) Focus on one defect at a time ~ “Wisdom is in the sight of man who has understanding, but the eyes of a fool are on the ends of the earth” (Proverbs 17:24). We get too overwhelmed if we try to change too many all at once. Let God pick one. Ask Him, and be honest, which one does He want you to work on? Trust Him and allow Him to have the reins in your life.

2) Focus on victory one day at a time ~ “Give us this day our daily bread” (Matthew 6:11). God gives us enough strength for today, not tomorrow, not next week, not next month or even next year, but TODAY. Don’t be so consumed by tomorrow that you forget about today.

So, how do we conquer life’s problems in our lives? One step at a time. Break it down into pieces we can manage, lean on God’s strength one day at a time. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble” (Matthew 6:34). Cherish the moments of today, it will never come around again.

We live in an instant type world, instant coffee, instant potatoes, microwaves for instant cooking. Submit to God one day at a time. “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11).

Like the saying goes, “Life is hard by the yard, but a cinch by the inch.”

3) Focus on God’s power ~ It is not your power. “Can the Ethiopian change his skin or the leopard its spots? Then may you also do good who are accustomed to do evil” (Jeremiah 13:23).

Will power isn’t enough. Depending on our own strength blocks our recovery. God says we can’t do it, its hopeless to do it on our own. But…”I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). NOTHING can stand in our way when we rely on God’s power! Give your defect over to God and don’t pick them back up.

4) Focus on what you want (not selfishly) ~ “Finally brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, pure, lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy, meditate on these things” (Philippians 4:8). That is not selfish.

Where our focus is, is where we are going to head toward ~ good or bad, past or present. focus on what God wants us to be, where He has us “today.” Whatever has our attention, has us. Whatever we resist, persists. Refocus, change the mental channel. focus on what is good and pure ~ engrain the Word of God in our minds.

God has forgotten the past, we are new creatures in Christ (2 Cor. 5:17). Our identity is no longer a defect. We are believers.

Think of recovery as ~ Everytime we fall down, whether by choice or by life happenings, God picks us up and re-covers us in His clothes, with His robe of righteousness (Isaiah 61:10).

5) Focus on doing good, not feeling good ~ “I say then; Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh” (Galatians 5:16). We need to have a shift in our thoughts. If we do the right thing, eventually our feelings will catch up. Fake it til’ you make it. We do the right thing because it is the right thing to do. Rise up out of obedience and our feelings will follow. Our thoughts determine our actions and our feelings will come along.

6) Focus on people who will help you, not on people who will hinder you ~ “Do not be deceived, evil company corrupts good habits” (1 Cor. 15:33). If we don’t want to get stung, stay away from the bees. be in a relationship with people who will help us, but most importantly with Jesus Christ.

7) Focus on progress, not perfection ~ “…being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will be faithful to complete it until the day of Jesus Christ” (Philippians 1:6). It is a race, a decision that is followed by action. God is not going to abandon us. Don’t paint God as an earthly parent ~ they make mistakes. Let God’s Word tell us who He is. A God who is working a good work in us. He will not leave us high and dry. When the tough gets going He is right there to pick us up. He won’t love us any more or any less than He does right now! He is very concerned about our eternal salvation, concerned with this progress as a process in our life. He knows it is a race. He knows it is not going to be instant. He knows it is a journey.

God is ALWAYS with us to help us break the chains that bind us. He is with us through it all. We must turn our will over to Him that He may truly work in our life to make the changes He sees fit.

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded” (James 4:8).

He will draw near to us in whatever challenges we face. With His strength we will persevere and rise again and again!