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Life Hurts ~ God Heals ~ Recycling My Pain

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 14, 2013 by greatvictories

This is the last of the “Life Hurts ~ God Heals Recovery Series.” I am sorry it has taken me so long to get the last one out to you. I do pray you have been blessed and helped by what you have read.

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R.E.C.O. V. E. R. Y

“I have seen his ways, and will heal him; I will also lead him, and restore comforts to him and to his mourners. I created the fruit of the lips; Peace, peace, to him who is far off and to him who is near, Says the Lord, And I will heal him” (Isaiah 57:18-19).

No matter how we behave, God WANTS to heal us. He wants to use our experiences to help heal other people. He will use your pain to help others too.

Part One ~ “R” Realize we are not God…

Part Two ~ “E” Earnestly believe that God exists…

Part Three ~ C  Consciously choose to commit all our life and will to Christ’s care and control.

Part Four ~ “O”  Openly examine and confess our faults to ourselves, to God, and to someone we trust.

Part Five ~ “V“ Voluntarily submit to every change God wants to make in our lives and humbly ask Him to remove our character defect.

Part Six ~ “E” Evaluate all my relationships and offer forgiveness to those who have hurt me and make amends for harm I’ve done to others except when to do so would harm them or others.

Part Seven ~ “R“ Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible reading, and prayer in order to know God and His will for your life and gain the power to do it.

Part Eight ~ “YYield myself to God to be used to bring the Good News to others by both my example and my words.

WHY GOD ALLOWED MY PAIN IN THE FIRST PLACE …

1) He gives us a free will ~ We all either help or hurt others. “Behold, I set before you today a blessings and a curse; the blessing, if you obey the commandments of the Lord your God which I commanded you today, and the curse, if you do not obey the commandments of the Lord your God, but then turn aside from the way which I command you today, to go after other gods which you have not known” (Deut. 11:26-28)

2) To get our attention ~ God uses it to wake us up. Pain should be an alarm in our life.  “Blows that hurt cleanse evil away, as do stripes the inner depths of the heart” (Proverbs 20:30).  “Now I rejoice, not that you were made sorry, but that your sorrow led to repentance” (2 Cor. 7:9).

3) To teach me to depend on Him ~ “It is good for me that I have been afflicted, that I may learn Your statutes” (Psalm 119:71). “Yes, we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves but in God who raises the dead, who delivered us from so great a death, and does deliver us, in whom we trust that He will still deliver us…” (1 Cor. 1:9-10).

4) To give us a ministry to others ~ “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God” (1 Cor. 1:4).

God NEVER wastes a hurt. Being someone He can use is NOT being perfect! In our weakness, He is strong.

HOW TO USE MY PAIN TO HELP OTHERS…

“But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear…” (1 Peter 3:15).

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ” (Gal. 6:2).

Openly and honestly share your testimony with others just like someone has shared theirs with you during tribulation.

We cannot get out of our pain without the help of others.

No high points are possible without the low points. Share one high point and one low point.

We are all in need of recovery one way or another. God wants to recycle our pain.

Are you willing to share and help others?

Just be humble, be honest, be real and don’t lecture, just be a witness.

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Life Hurts ~ God Heals ~ Coming Clean

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Coming Clean-man

R.E.C.O.V.E.R.Y.

How to get your person put together so your world looks fine.

“I have seen his ways, and will heal him, I will lead him also, and restore comforts unto him and to his mourners. I create the fruit of the lips, Peace, peace to him that is far off, and to him that is near, saith the Lord, and I will heal him” (Isaiah 57:18-19).

Part One ~ “R” – Realize we are not God: We admit we are powerless to control our tendency to do the wrong thing and our life is unmanageable. Naturally we do evil…In Christ we’re delivered from this body of death. That which we do we allow not. What we want to do is right but what we do is sin that dwells in us (Romans 7:15-17).

Part Two ~ “E” – Earnestly believe that God exists, that we matter to Him, and that He has the power to help us recover.

Part Three ~ “C” – Consciously choose to commit all our life and will to Christ’s care and control.

Part Four ~ “O” – Openly examine and confess our faults to ourselves, to God, and to someone we trust.

“Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered. Blessed is the man to whom the Lord imputeth not iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no guile” (Psalm 32:1-2).

Reasons for this step of, Openly examine and confess our faults to ourselves, to God, and to someone we trust:

“He that covers his sins shall not prosper, but whosoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy” (Proverbs 28:13).

1) Guilt destroys my confidence. “What if people really found out. What would they think of me?”

2) Guilt damages my relationships. “Causes me to react with impatience, anger, spoil or indulge people.”

3) Guilt keeps me stuck in the past. “Look out the windshield, not the review mirror.”

Guilt can’t change the past and worry can’t change the future.

How to take this step to house cleaning spiritual discipline:

1) Take personal moral inventory. “Let us search and try our ways, and turn again to the Lord” (Lamentations 3:40).

Get alone with paper and pen, ask God to help you uncover them, confess them to God. Take your time and be honest with yourself and with God.

Search me, O God, and know my heart, try me, and know my thoughts, and if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalm 139:23-24).

2) Accept responsibility for it. “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us” (1 John 1:8).

We are good at fooling ourselves and allowing “stuff” to rule over our lives. Wherever we go, there we are. We cannot run  from it (sin). Don’t minimize it or blame others. Admit we messed up.

3) Ask forgiveness from God. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

Take your list to God, confess your sins. Don’t beg God to forgive you. Don’t bargin or bribe Him. Just ask and believe that He is going to forgive you. Be humble.

“Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord, though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow, though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool” (Isaiah 1:18).

4) Admit your faults to another person. “Confess your faults one to another, and pray for another, that you may be healed. The effective fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much” (James 5:16).

Who? Someone you can trust. “This is who I am.”

What do you say? Take your list and be honest.

When? As soon as possible.

5) Accept God’s forgiveness and forgive yourself. “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God, being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus” (Romans 3:23-24).

“There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit” (Romans 8:1).

STOP packing those burdens of guilt! Christ died so we can be FREE!!

God wants to heal us of our guilt.

Thyatira ~ A Tolerant Church

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 13, 2012 by greatvictories

You’ve Got Mail…What Jesus says to the churches

The trade was coming to them and they were becoming prosperous. Partying and immoral lifestyle become their way…Compromise, compromise (Rev. 2:18-29)

What is said about Jesus?

These things says the Son of God, who has eyes like a flame of fire (they are piercing), and His feet like fine brass (His footing is firm) (v.18).

He cares for us in the midst of difficulties. He holds our lives ~ He won’t drop us when we need Him to hold us.

What is said about the church?

He knows your work, love, service,  faith, and your patience, and as for your works, the last are more than the first. Nonetheless, I have a few things against you, because you allow that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, to teach My servants to commit sexual immorality and eat things sacrificed to idols. And I gave her time to repent of her sexual immorality, and she did not repent (vs. 19-21).

Don’t follow Jezebel’s teaching of adultery, sexual immorality, or idol worship (vs. 22-23). Don’t drop your guard in the midst of your faith journey.

Going through a season of life with all going well may be an expression of God’s patience (grace) and not His blessing.

He is waiting for us to REPENT. This says Jesus is so full of love and grace, He has patience with us. We CANNOT be engaged in “the world” and God’s both.

The challenge of faithful Christian’s? Hold fast what you have till I come (v.25).

Balance the truth and be tolerant ~ because Jesus sure does.  Grace, grace and more grace.

Truth without tolerance equals legalism…So about rules they forget about God’s love. People without joy, hateful, always measuring people, deceptive. Good on the outside, rotten on the inside.

Tolerance without truth equals compromise…tolerant, everythings just fine. So open minded their brains fall out.

Truth with tolerance equals balance…And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth (John 1:14).

So, how do we balance the two?

1. Is this a major or minor issue according to the Bible? Don’t major on the minors.

Principle: In major issues have unity. In minor issues have diversity. In all issues show grace.

2. Do you have a Biblical conviction about the issue? Know what God’s Word says.

Principle: If its doubtful, its dirty. God with what and how God convicts you (Romans 14:5-22).

3. How will your decision impact an immature believer? We are not an island of ourselves.

Principle: I have a responsibility to others.

4. Will this reflect my love for the Lord?

Principle: I must remember whose I am, then consider if an activity or attitude will demonstrate my love for jesus.

5. What would my spiritual role model do? WWJD…What Would Jesus Do?

Principle: Spend time with mature Christians

The incredible reward? I will give them the morning star (v. 28).

Jesus Christ Himself is the morning star. “I, Jesus, have sent My angel to testify to you these things in the churches. I am the Root and the Offspring of David, the Bright and Morning Star (Rev. 22:16).

What role of influence can you play in another person’s life? Ask God to use you and that you will not compromise God’s truth of Jesus.

He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches (v.29).

God’s truth is still the truth no matter what society says or does…

Under His Wing

Posted in Under His Wing with tags , , , , , on June 5, 2009 by greatvictories

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Before I can have a genuine relationship with others where I allow myself to be honest, open and vulnerable, it is helpful to first experience the healing comfort of my Heavenly Father in the areas of hurt and rejection in my soul (mind, will, emotion and personality).

Allow PaPa God to wrap His loving arms around you in the areas you have never felt comfort before.

He loves me with an everlasting love. (Jeremiah 31:3) He longs to gather me to Himself as a mother hen gathers her chicks under her wings. (Matthew 23:37)

Don’t allow the excuses of past hurts or abuse to cause me to miss out on the joy of deep intimate communion in my relationships.

Allow PaPa God to touch deep places in my soul and to fill my heart so full of His love that it overflows on to everyone around me.

When I have failed, I picture PaPa pointing His finger at me in disapproval, rather than envisioning Him running toward me with wide open arms, eager to welcome me back into His presence. (Luke 15:20)

Yes, God does discipline…He’s a daddy…but not in a way that imparts shame, fear, or accusation. His motivation is His vast and eternal love for me. (Hebrews 12:6-10) He wants the very best for me!

“There is no fear in love, perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment.” (1 John 4:18)

When I believe God is angry with me, it is hard to accept His love or draw near to Him. My image of God directly contrasts with the image I have of myself. When I feel ashamed or guilty, I often run and hide like Adam and eve did.

I am PaPa God’s “happy thought.” His loving thoughts toward me out number the sand. He considers me His precious child. (Psalm 139)

When I come to truly believe that I am God’s happy thought, I’ll be able to run freely to Him when I sin or when I experience times of distress.

His unconditional love displaces my fears of intimacy!

Religion ~ often focuses on the deeds of the sinner rather than on what God has done to restore the relationship between Himself and His children.

In Luke 15 the parable is more about a father’s love and cry for intimacy than it is a son’s rebellion.

Jesus wanted to teach a lesson about the restoration of a relationship with God that had already existed, a homecoming to Father’s love after the bond of intimacy was broken by my immaturity. Immaturity thinks only of its own desires, not the heart and needs of others.

DON’T value PaPa only for what He can do for me, I will miss out on an intimate relationship with Him. Sometimes I seek the blessings of my relationship with Him rather than hungering for Daddy Himself. Forgive me Father God, forgive me.